PartIES

Going to a UB Party for the first time?

A few things to know:

• Anyone over the age of 18 years is welcome to join us

• Understand Personal Responsibility

• Register through Eventbrite /Humanitix /Online System - see the event details

  • • Fetlife normally has the most up-to-date event lis

    • Self Service Refunds are available a set number days before the Party - see the event details

• For UB Parties you will have to complete a 

  • • UB Orientation Workshop prior to the event, these are held after each Munch and take 20-30 minutes to complete (a copy of the workshop can be found here) 

• A theme or dress requirements are normally listed on the event if in doubt wear black. If you show up in normal clothes, you may be refused entry.

• Location is normally sent out by email, just before the event (48-24 hours)

• Some events are priced low and you are asked to bring a plate of food to share

• The hosts of a party are not paid and are all volunteers, please be respectful of this

• If you are playing, understand about "Drop" for you and your play partner.

48 hours before the Party 

• Ticket Sales end, if not sold out

• Two Location Emails are sent out at: 2 days and 2 hours before the Party

• Emails are sent to the details you entered into Eventbrite/Humanitix

What to expect at a UB Party

• Arrive and check-in at the door - please bring your Eventbrite/Humanitix QR code either on your phone or printed, so you can be scanned in.

• Only registered people and not the public will be allowed into the event

• If you have been asked to bring a plate, drop this off in the social area

• Find the nominated place to store your play bags and jackets

• There will be a safety briefing by the hosts and DM's at the start of the night

  • • Fire exits

    • Safety Area

    • Safeword (we use any variation of safeword, or red)

    • Who the DM's for the night are (DM's decisions are final on any play)

    • Details of the night's events

• You will be shown the social, play and recovery areas. 

• Some venues may have private play space

• Have fun and socialise and get to know people in the social area

• If you are watching in the play area, please remember to be quiet

• Food and soft drinks will be available throughout the night

• You are welcome to watch any play

• Excessive use of alcohol, or any drugs are not permitted

• If you can, help with the pack down at the end of the night, you will make more friends

• What happens at a party, stays at a party

• No mobile phones out in the play area

Types of play & Triggers

At a Party there can be many types of play, some you may not want to see.
If a scene is not to YOUR liking, take personal responsibility and move to another area.

Nobody will ever require you to watch, or take part in something that you dislike.

Drop & Aftercare

If you are a top or bottom, you may suffer from "drop", be ready for this!

Drop (sometimes called sub drop, dom drop and "The Mondays") is an experience with similar characteristics of depression that occurs after an intense SM scene. It is caused by adrenaline and endorphin crashes after the adrenaline and endorphin spikes that may occur during a scene.

Read more on "Drop"